Indiana to See If Shame is an Effective Tool for Weight Loss

Indiana is offering shame as a weight loss tool for state employees who apparently need to hate their bodies more in order to take better care of them. (I’m reporting someone else’s story here, a launch from the norm on Much gratitude to Jessica for sharing her experience.) On Wednesday, overweight and obese Indiana state employees arrived at work to find an all-too-familiar invitation Read More

 March 19, 2015     Addiction | Behavior | Exercise | Self-love | Self-sabotage
Why Some Accountability Groups Fuel Self-Sabotage

Accountability groups – online and IRL – are supposed to help us make positive change. Here’s why so many end up fueling our self-sabotage, and doing us more harm than good. Do you belong to any accountability-type groups or online ‘wellness’ communities? Lots of us join Facebook groups and other kinds of communities because we want support around developing healthier habits. Unfortunately, that’s Read More

 March 10, 2015     Motivation | Myth-busting | Pleasure Principles | Self-sabotage
Is This A Body Positive Blog or Are You Just Selling Thin?

Wherein I explain why I use my before-and-after photo to a body-positive / self-love activist who, understandably, wants to smack me in the face. (Strong Coffey is a body-positive blog, I assure you.) Dear Coffey: I’m a proud, fat, body-positivity advocate, and I’m having a really hard time deciding if I love you or hate you. On the one hand Read More

 March 7, 2015     Behavior | Self-love
The Three Eaters: Why Weight Loss Diets Are NOT For Everyone

Moderation in all things is a lovely concept, but when it comes to weight loss diets, portion-control alone works long-term for only a fraction of folks that want to lose weight. For most of us, finding sustainable, healthy approaches to weight loss is a little more…personal.     If you’re a wellness professional, especially if you ever engage people in a conversation Read More

 March 3, 2015     Addiction | Behavior | Depression | Food | Nutrition | Portion Control | Video
Why Long Term Goals Can Do More Harm Than Good

Q: Helpful or not helpful – To envision the thin / healthier self you hope to become / become again? You know, like when people tell you to make visionboards or dreamboards of your long term goals? Do they really work?   A: In a word – Unhelpful. Envisioning a future goal puts our focus on the future, and what Read More

 February 16, 2015     Behavior | Self-love | Video
Tell Me Why I Cannot Stop Eating Junk Food

Dear Coffey: I’m completely hooked on Monkey Brains, and for me that means rich, decadent food. My mother, who ate like I do, needed double bypass heart surgery at age 50, just three years older than I am now. Why am I doing this to myself? Why am I so attached to Monkey Brains that I am willing to die to eat Read More

 February 12, 2015     Addiction | Food
Emerging Science Around Sex Explains Why Some Women Don’t Exercise

Want to have more sex or get more exercise? Try easing up on the self-criticism. As anyone who’s ever driven with two feet can attest, hitting the gas without first letting up on the brakes can have some seriously disappointing consequences. It doesn’t get you where you want to go, that’s for sure. In her book Come As You Are: The Read More

 February 3, 2015     Behavior | Exercise | Motivation | Self-love | Self-sabotage | Sex | Strength
This Is What It Really Means To Have Healthy Boundaries

To have healthy boundaries, think more about what ideas you take on than, and less about what invitations and responsibilities you’ll accept.  Once upon a time,  I thought having healthy boundaries meant saying ‘No,’ – ‘No’ to chairing a meeting, ‘No’ to organizing a party, ‘No’ to letting a house guest stay another week. Refusals like this are a good start, but  there’s a Read More

 January 4, 2015     Behavior
This Wellness Professional Is Coming Out as a Big Fat Fraud

Today I play the role of a business owner, a writer, a wife, and a mother. If you time-traveled into the past you’d see me playing a nerd, a goth, a butch, a femme, a poet, a comedian, a Christian, an agnostic,, and a couple dozen other roles. No matter who I was, or where I was, or what I Read More

 January 3, 2015     Addiction | Behavior | Depression | Drugs & Alcohol | Food | Self-image
8 Self Sabotaging Lies and the Truth Underneath

Self-sabotage is the root of most failed efforts to adopt healthier habits. Here’s a list of the top 8 self-sabotaging lies we tell ourselves, and the truth behind each one. Like many of the coolest, most interesting, and creative folks on earth, I default to addiction and morbid obesity. Self-Sabotage is my middle name, and yet today I’m a fit and Read More

 December 29, 2014     Addiction | Behavior | Drugs & Alcohol | Exercise | Food | Pleasure Principles | Self-sabotage | Video
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